Pulse Point 13 – Release Rituals
The Invitation
I’ve found that over the years, when my space is cluttered—when there’s just too much stuff—I can’t breathe. You can’t clean chaos. You can’t find peace when your environment screams. What’s on the outside reflects the storm on the inside. This is why we release.
The Sacred Scene
Picture this: You’re in your kitchen, trying to clean and make it peaceful, but there are gadgets and gizmos aplenty all over the counters. No space. No calm. No room to move or breathe.
My mother had a microwave stand. At the bottom, she kept it jam-packed with cookbooks. She gave me the ones she didn’t use—and you know what? I didn’t use them either.
So ask yourself: how many cookbooks do you actively use? Do you really need an air fryer, a waffle maker, and a tortilla warmer?
The Relics We Keep
Let me be real with you. In my office right now, I have:
- A slice of cake stress toy.
- Disney trinkets people gave me over the years.
- Pens that don’t work.
- Empty glass jars I just… kept.
- Leftover things from my husband’s office because we had to merge spaces.
I have stuff I can’t even identify in my garage. Relics of projects that never landed. Sentimental weights. Emotional echoes. And yes, it’s mine. It’s okay to keep what means something.
But the release ritual? It asks: what no longer serves the rhythm?
The Ritual Itself
As we move through the different realms in your kingdom, we’ll spend fifteen minutes a day doing a Release Ritual. That’s all. Just fifteen minutes. Maybe even five days a week. That’s an hour and fifteen minutes total. But the impact? Unbelievable.
Ask:
- Do I need this?
- Do I use this?
- Do I love this?
Think about it. That pie maker your mom gave you ten years ago? Have you used it? Or are you holding onto guilt?
The Rules of the Release Ritual
- You cannot release what is not yours.
You are not allowed to throw away, donate, or release something that belongs to someone else. Put it in their room. Ask them what they want to do with it. But it’s not yours to decide. - If it’s released, it must leave.
Once you’ve decided to let something go, it must leave the realm that day. Don’t leave it sitting around. No purgatory piles allowed. - If you’re unsure, wait.
If you don’t know whether to release something, let it stay until the next time you’re in that realm. You’ll know better then. - Repeat the ritual until satisfied.
For each realm, you will do the release ritual until you feel satisfied that nothing else needs to be released. Only then do you move to the next ritual in that realm.
Final Word
These release rituals aren’t about throwing away your life. They’re about coming back to the bones of what brings peace, what fits your rhythm, and what turns your space into a sanctuary.
You may be in a release ritual in one realm while already in the next phase in another. That’s okay.
You’re going at your pace.
You’re releasing your chaos.
And you are inviting peace to take its place.
This is the rhythm. This is the return.
